General
The following pages give the details of things to be purchased / arranged for the respective function.
While every care has been taken to include as many details as possible, Pl inform me any modifications / inclusions / deletions to be done. I will incorporate these after verification and circulate to all concerned .
For all functions, add Manjal , Kunkumam and Sandhanam as the first items even if not given
Girl's side includes girl's parents, brothers, maternal uncle , aunt
Boy's side means boy's parents , brothers, maternal uncle etc
If parents are no more, then the responsibility will pass on to brothers , sisters , father's brothers, mother's brothers etc in that order.
Generally qty / weight etc are not given for any item that is to be arranged. It depends on the affordability of the individual family concerned.
Some items to be provided are categorised as Optional. It is upto the family to take a decision on providing these items as they deem fit and necessary.
Wherever Saree is mentioned, Blouse is to be added automatically, even if not mentioned. Similarly, wherever Veshti is mentioned, Angavastram / Towel is to be added automatically
For all functions, Venduthal amount for the Kula Deivam to be kept separtely before the function .
Note : This wealth of information has been extracted from the various Diary Notes maintained by Girija over the years .
Marriage Nischayathartham
To be organised by boy's side
Note : This function is normally held as soon as the alliance is fixed or a few months / days before the marriage.
Girl's side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam
Zarigai veshti, Angavastram, Pant and shirt for the bridegroom
Saree for bride (Optional)
Dress for other members of the family (Optional)
Gold Ring For the Bridegroom (Optional)
Gold Chain For the Bridegroom (Optional)
Gold Bracelet For the Bridegroom (Optional)
Watch For the Bridegroom (Optional)
(Note : Though given as optional, providing atleast one or more of the above four items is desirable )
Velli Pela and Velli Kunkuma chimizh (required for use on marriage day also . Hence to be preserved carefully after the function either by Girl's side or Boy's side)
Garland for Bride and Bridegroom
Seer : Paruppu Thengai koodu 2 pair
Seer : Batchanam - Thiratti Paal, Another sweet, Two Savories
Seer : Fruits (at least 6 different fruits ) - Plantain, Mango, Apple, Pomogranite,Grapes, Orange, Saathukudi, pineapple etc)
Seer : Dry fruits ( Cashew nut, Badam, Pista, Dry Grapes, Dates etc )
Seer: Sugar, Kalkandu , Chocolates, Gems etc
Seer: Vetrilai Paakku, Thengai, Pazham, Poo
Suitable Eversilver/Plastic Trays, Eversilver /Plastic Dabbas, Baskets etc to keep the above seer
Transparent sheets, Ribbon, etc to decorate the seer items
Mariathai for Bridegroom's parents ( Dress and or money)
Token amount for the Bridegroom's marriage dress (Optional)
Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Silk Saree for the bride
Pant Shirt, veshti, Angavastram for the bridegroom (Optional)
Dress for the other members of the family (Optional)
Gold Ring For the Bride (Optional)
Gold Chain / necklace For the Bride (Optional)
Gold Bracelet For the Bride (Optional)
Watch For the Bride (Optional)
(Note : Though given as optional, providing atleast one or more of the above four items is desirable )
Puja items - Manjal, Kunkumam, Vetrilai Paakku, Thengai, Poo,Uthiri poo, Pazham, Sandhanam, uthuvatthi, Karpooram, Sugar, Kalkandu etc ( To obtain from the Vaathiar the list of items to be purchased )
Vaathiar Sambavanai
Catering ( Snacks or Meals )
Hall for the function, if required
Video/ photo Coverage
Vetriali Paakku Pazham for the invitees
Ethir Mariathai for the Bride's Parents
Marriage
To be organised by Girl's side
Girl's side
Manjal, Kunkumam, Sandhanam
Veshti, Saree Blouse for a nearby temple swamy and Amman
Marriage Hall( including Cooking vessels, Puja vessels, Chairs, Vazhai Maram in the entrance, Hall decoration, Electric serial light for exterior, Gen set , Beddings, water for bathroom use etc )
Marriage Contractor ( for arranging food on the marriage days, Drinking water, Seer Batchanam, Nadhaswaram, Janvasa Car, Poo, Malai, Floral decoration of the Hall, Welcome board ,Kaasi Yaathirai Items( Umbrella,Thadi,Visiri & Religious book) , Muhurtha Mat, Marriage Materials reqd by the Sastrigals,Thaambula Bag Etc)
Printing and distribution of Invitation
( 1st Invitation to Kanchi Mutt alongwith Swamy Sambavanai )
Photo, Video arrangements
Gold jewellary for the Bride
முக்கிய நகைகள் முகூர்த்தத்தின் போது போடவேண்டும்
Gold Ring For the Bridegroom
Gold Chain For the Bridegroom
Gold Bracelet For the Bridegroom
Watch For the Bridegroom
( Out of the above four items, the items provided during Nischayathartham need not be provided at the time of marriage )
Thirumangalyam ( 50% share if Bridegroom's side agrees to share the balance 50%)
Silver articles ( Sombu, Vilakku, Pancha Patram utharani, Pela, kunkuma Chimizh, Meals Plate etc )
Eversilver Vessels as reqd
Kitchen accessories like, Mixee, Grinder, Oven,Electric cooker, Stove, Coffee maker etc ) as reqd
Furniture, TV, Audio system, DVD Player etc (Optional)
Bedding, Pillows, BedSheet and BedCover
Dress for Bride ( Silk Sarees for Viradham, Nischayathartham, Onjal, Muhurtham , Nalangu, Reception and Nuptials - 9 yards for Muhurtham and 6 yards for balance ) - General dress for day to day use
Dress for Bridegroom ( Muhurtha Veshti and Pattu Veshti for Nuptials)
Dress for Bride's parents,sisters, brothers and their children
Dress for Bridegroom's parents ( Sambandhi Mariathai )
Dress for Bride's relatives (Optional)
Dress for Bride's Naathanar ( For Thaali mudithal)
Chappal for Kaasi Yaathirai
Kaasi Yaathirai Items( Umbrella,Thadi,Visiri & Religious book) ,if not provided by the Contractor
Make up items for the Bride
Mehendhi for Bride
Nalangu Items
Koil Permission for Janvasa Maapilai Azhaippu
Police permision for Janvasa Oorvalam
Transport for the Groom and his family from / to Airport / Station / Bus stand to / from Marriage Hall
Transport for local visits/ emergency purchases etc
Extra beddings for relatives/ friends who are staying in the Marriage hall
Rooms in a nearby hotel for relatives and friends of Bride and Bridegroom , if reqd
Make up of the Bride
Sastrigal Sambavanai ( of Bride's side )
Arrangement for Honeymoon (Optional)
Girl’s Athai Responsibility
Make bride as “Kalyana Pen” –
குழம்பு வடாம் போட ஏற்பாடு செய்ய
வேண்டும்
Buy one Saree
Girl's mama's seer
Saree and blouse for Bride
Gold Ring for Bride
Metti for Bride
Saree and blouse for Bride's mother
Veshti Towel Shirt for bride's father
Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Printing and distribution of Invitation
Gold Ring For the Bride
Gold Chain / necklace For the Bride
Gold Bracelet For the Bride
Watch For the Bride
( Out of the above four items, the items provided during Nischayathartham need not be provided at the time of marriage )
Dress for the bride groom ( Pant, coat, shirt for Janvasam, Veshti shirt for nalangu etc )
Dress for Bride (for Grahapravesam)
Dress for Bride's parents ( Sambandhi Mariathai )
Dress for Bridegroom's parents,sisters, brothers and their children
Dress for Bridegroom's relatives
Thirumangalyam ( 50% share if agreed to )
Dress ( or amount ) for Bride's brother ( Pori idudhal )
Nalangu Vilayadal Saamaangal (by Nathanar)
Saree, Cosmetic items, Small dolls
Air / Train / Bus Transport arrangements from Bridegroom's city to the city of marriage for Bridegroom's family and friends
Sastrigal Sambavanai ( of Bridegroom's side )
Arrangement for Honeymoon ( If not arranged by Bride's side )
Sastrigal Sambavanai ( of Bridegroom's side )
Visit to Kula Deivam Koil to fulfill Prarthana
Boy's mama seer
Saree and blouse for Bridegroom's mother
Veshti Towel / Pant shirt for bridegroom's father
Dress for Bridegroom
Marriage 1st Year Seer
The seer to be arranged for various festivals during the 1st year of Marriage are detailed below.
Girl's Side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Vetrrilai Paakku, Pazham ( common for all festivals )
8th Day after Marriage ( Maru Azhaippu )
Saree , Blouse for Daughter
Pant, Shirt ( or T Shirt ) for son in law
Paruppu Thengai
Karadaiyan Nombu
Saree , Blouse for Daughter
Shirt ( or T Shirt ) for son in law
Tamil New Years Day
Gift ( some amount )
Aadi Festival
Saree , Blouse for Daughter
Pant, Shirt ( or T Shirt ) for son in law
Silver Tumbler
Varalakshmi Nombu ( If applicable )
Silver Sombu
Silver Amman mugham
Silver Plate
Silver Pancha Paathram, uddharani
Saree , Blouse for Daughter
Shirt ( or T Shirt ) for son in law
Navaraathri
Saree , Blouse for Daughter
Shirt ( or T Shirt ) for son in law
Golu Bommai ( some old and some New )
Deepavali
Silk Saree , Blouse for Daughter
Pant ,Shirt ( or T Shirt ) for son in law
Paruppu Thengai
2Sweets and 2 Savouries
Dress for son in law's parents
Dress for son in law's sister/brother ( if they accompany son in law for Deepavali )
Kaarthigai Deepam
Saree , Blouse for Daughter
Shirt ( or T Shirt ) for son in law
Silver Vilakku
Brass Agal Vilakku
Mud Agal Vilakku
A token amount for Oil
Aval Pori in a Eversilver Dabba
Nel Pori in a Eversilver Dabba
Paruppu Thengai
1 Sweet
Pongal
Saree , Blouse for Daughter
Pant ,Shirt ( or T Shirt ) for son in law
Bronze Paanai
Sippal Thattu, Karandi
Note: If a child is born before the end of the 1st Year, dress for the child to be included for the relevant festivals
Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Crakers for Deepavali
Sambanthi ethir Mariathai for all festivals
Veshti, Towel, Saree, Blouse or a token amount
Pregnancy
Girl's side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam
During 5th month of pregnancy
Saree, Blouse for daughter
1 Sweet and 1 Savory
Valaigappu ( to be done separately in 6th or 8th month or alongwith Seemandham )
Veshti for Pillaiyar
Silk Saree, Blouse for daughter ( black Saree can be bought only for this occasion )
Gold Kaappu
Silver Kaappu
Gold , Karugamani Bangles 1 pair
Pattu Paai
Kannaadi Bangles for daughter ( odd no in one hand and the next even no in the other hand, for example 21 in one hand and 22 in the other hand ) )
Kannaadi Bangles for all ladies who attend the function
Kannadi Bangles for close relative/ friend ladies who cannot attend the function.
Saree and blouse for Marumanai lady
Dress for Marumanai Kanya Penn.
Sambaavanai for the Valaiyal Karar
Poo, Pazham, Vetrilai paakku,Thengai
1 Pair Paruppu Thengaai
Seemandham ( To be performed in 6th or 8th month )
Veshti Towel for son in law
9 yards Saree, blouse for daughter
1 Pair Paruppu Thengaai
Seer Batchanam ( 2 sweets and 2 Savouries- 21 or 31 each)- 7 Suththu Murukku
Batchanam for distribution
Poo, Pazham, Vetrilai paakku,Thengai
Maalai for daughter and son in law
Gift to the ladies attending the function
Breakfast / lunch ( to be shared with Sambandhi )
Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Valaigappu
Seemandham
Dress for the son
Dress for the daughter in law
Hall for the function
Breakfast / Lunch ( to be shared with Girl's side )
Vaathiar Sambaavanai
Items reqd for puja ( list to be obtained from Sastrigal )
Thaambulam for the invitees
Delivery ( When the first two children are born )
Girl's side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam
Hospital Expenses
Dress for the newborn
Accessories needed for daughter and the newborn
Sweet / Chocalate for distribution
Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Sweet / Chocalate for distribution
Dress for the newborn
Punyahavachanam
To be organised by Girl's side
To be performed (on the 11th day after birth or as advised by the doctor )
Meals expense to be done by new born child's father side
Girl's side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam
Saree Blouse for daughter
Veshti, Towel, Shirt for son in law
Dress for the newborn
Naai Kaasu, thayatthu for the newborn
Gold Arana for the newborn
Poo, Pazham, vetrilai Pakku , thengai etc
Breakfast / Meals
Paruppu Thengai
Pooja items as reqd by the sastrigal
Decoration of Thottil
Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Athai Kaappu ( to be done on 7th day after birth by the atahi/s or the grandparents of the newborn )
Pon Kaappu
Silver Kaappu
Copper Kaappu
Kaaparisi
Vaathiar Sambavanai
Dress for the newborn
Gold Chain/ Bangles for the newborn
Kuzhandayai Kondu Viduthal
( Handing over the newborn to the Sambandhi's)
Girl's side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam
Dress for daughter
Dress for the new born
Dress for the other children , if any
Jewellary for the newborn
Paruppu Thengai
1 Sweet and 1 Savory
Poo, Pazham, Vetrilai Paakku, Thengai etc
Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Ethir mariathai for the sambandhis (Optional)
Ayush Homam
To be organised by boy's side
To be performed on the 1st birth day ( as per birth star )
Girl's side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam
Gold Jewellary for the child ( Chain/ Bangles etc )
Gold Ear Ring 1 pair for the child
Silver plate for the child
Silver Tumbler for the child
Silk Paavaadai, Blouse for the child ( if girl )
Pant / Drawer, Shirt ( if boy )
Saree, blouse for daughter
Veshti, towel ,Shirt for son in law
Paruppu Thengai
Thiratti Paal
Seer Batchanam - 1 Sweet and 1 Savory - ( 21 or 31 each )
Kaaparisi
Maalai for the child
Poo, Pazham, Vetrilai Pakku,Thengai etc
Photo / Video ( by either side )
On English Birthday
Dress for the child
Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Hall for conducting the function
Catering
Jewellary for the child
Dress for the child
Pooja items as reqd by the Sastrigal
Vathiar Sambavanai
Sambandhi ethir Mariathai ( dress or amount )
Thengai Pai, Gift for the attendees
On English Birth day
Dress for the child
Cake
Athai Seer at time of puberty
Any Gift like Silver பேலா etc
Upanayanam
To be organised by boy's side
(to be done when the boy's age is 7 / 9 / 11 etc ( running )
Girl's side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam
Pattu veshti for the boy
Dress ( Pant Shirt for the boy ) Optional
Gold chain / Ring for the boy Optional
Silver Pancha Paathiram, uddharani
Gold and Silver poonal
Silver Plate for Bitchai
Silver Kinnam for Bitchai
Eversilver Vessel for Bitchai
Saree, Blouse for Boy's mother
Veshti, Towel for Boy's father
Seer Batchanam ( Paruppu Thengai, Thiratti Paal, 1 sweet 1 Savoury)
Poo, Pazham, Vetrilai Paakku, Thengai etc
Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Two 4 muzha Veshti for the boy / Dress for Boy
Dress for Boy's parents/ grand parents
Dress for boy's brothers, sisters, bro in law, sis in law and children
Invitation to be printed and distributed
Hall for the function ( 1 1/2 days )
1 Veshti Towel for the Brahmachari ( Kumara Bojanam )
Vaathiar Sambaavanai
Catering
Puja items ( List to be obtained from Sastrigal )
Ethir Mariathai for Sambandhis
Thaambulam for the invitees
Grahapravesam
To be organised by boy's side
Girl's side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam
Saree Blouse for daughter
Pant, Shirt, Veshti, Towel for son in law
Dress for the children
Dress for son in law's parents Optional
Silver Vilakku
Gold jewellary for son in law ( Chain/ Bracelet etc )
Jewellary for daughter ( Chain/ Necklace / Bangles etc )
Eversilver vessel and Karandi for boiling Milk
One Pair Paruppu Thengaai
Swamy Padams
Poo, Pazham, Vetrilai Paakku, Thengai etc
Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Dress for son (Optional)
Dress for daughter in law (Optional)
Dress for the children
Catering (Optional)
Pooja items as reqd by the sastrigal (Optional
Vaathiaar Sambavanai (Optional
Ethir Mariathai for Sambandhis( Dress or amount ) Optional
Shastiapthapoorthy
To be organised by boy's side
Girl's side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam
திருமாங்கல்யம் Tirumangayam
மெட்டி Metti
புடவை ஜாக்கட் Saree , Blouse
வேஷ்டி, அங்கவஸ்தரம், Veshti, Angavastram
மாலை 2, Garland 2
பூ, தேங்காய், வெற்றிலை, பாக்கு, பழம், Flower, Coconut, Betalleaf, Supari
Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Dress for self, wife, daughters, sons, sons in law, daughters in law and grand children.
Invitation to be printed and ditributed
Hall for the function ( two days )
Catering
Vaathiar Sambaavanai
Items reqd for puja( List to be obtained from Sastrigal )
Thaambulam for the invitees
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S S Krishnan
March 2011
