Sunday, June 10, 2012

Seer Check List for all functions


General

The following pages give the details of things to be purchased / arranged for the respective function. 

While every care has been taken to include as many details as possible, Pl inform me any modifications / inclusions / deletions to be done. I will incorporate these after verification and circulate to all concerned .

For all functions, add Manjal , Kunkumam and Sandhanam as the first items even if not given 

Girl's side includes girl's parents, brothers, maternal uncle , aunt 

Boy's side  means boy's parents , brothers, maternal uncle etc

If parents are no more, then the responsibility will pass on to  brothers , sisters , father's brothers, mother's brothers etc in that order.

Generally qty / weight etc are not given for any item that is to be arranged.  It depends on the affordability of the individual family concerned. 

Some  items to be provided are categorised  as Optional. It is upto the family to take a decision on providing these items as they deem fit and necessary.

Wherever Saree is mentioned, Blouse is  to be added automatically, even if not mentioned. Similarly, wherever Veshti is mentioned, Angavastram / Towel is to be added automatically 

For all functions,  Venduthal amount for the Kula Deivam to be kept separtely before the function . 

Note : This wealth of information has been extracted from the various Diary Notes maintained by Girija over the years .


Marriage Nischayathartham
To be organised by boy's side
Note :  This function is normally held as soon as the alliance is fixed or a few months / days before the marriage.

Girl's side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam
Zarigai veshti, Angavastram, Pant and shirt for the bridegroom
Saree for bride (Optional)
Dress for other members of the family (Optional)
Gold Ring For the Bridegroom (Optional)
Gold Chain For the Bridegroom (Optional)
Gold Bracelet For the Bridegroom (Optional)
Watch For the Bridegroom (Optional)
(Note : Though given as optional, providing atleast one or more of the above four items is desirable )
Velli Pela and Velli Kunkuma chimizh (required for use on marriage day also . Hence to be preserved carefully after the function either by Girl's side or Boy's side)
Garland for  Bride and Bridegroom
Seer  : Paruppu Thengai koodu  2 pair
Seer  : Batchanam - Thiratti Paal, Another sweet, Two Savories
Seer : Fruits (at least 6 different fruits ) - Plantain, Mango, Apple, Pomogranite,Grapes, Orange, Saathukudi, pineapple etc)
Seer :  Dry fruits ( Cashew nut, Badam, Pista, Dry Grapes, Dates etc )
Seer: Sugar, Kalkandu , Chocolates, Gems etc
Seer: Vetrilai Paakku, Thengai, Pazham,  Poo
Suitable Eversilver/Plastic Trays, Eversilver /Plastic Dabbas, Baskets etc to keep the above seer
Transparent sheets, Ribbon, etc to decorate the seer items
Mariathai for Bridegroom's parents ( Dress and or money)
Token amount for the Bridegroom's marriage dress (Optional)

Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Silk Saree for the bride
Pant Shirt, veshti, Angavastram for the bridegroom (Optional)
Dress for the other members of the family (Optional)
Gold Ring For the Bride (Optional)
Gold Chain / necklace For the Bride (Optional)
Gold Bracelet For the Bride (Optional)
Watch For the Bride (Optional)
(Note : Though given as optional, providing atleast one or more of the above four items is desirable )
Puja items - Manjal, Kunkumam, Vetrilai Paakku, Thengai, Poo,Uthiri poo, Pazham, Sandhanam, uthuvatthi, Karpooram, Sugar, Kalkandu etc  ( To obtain from the Vaathiar the list of items to be purchased )
Vaathiar Sambavanai
Catering ( Snacks or Meals )
Hall for the function, if required
Video/ photo Coverage
Vetriali Paakku Pazham for the invitees
Ethir Mariathai for the Bride's Parents


Marriage
To be organised by Girl's side

Girl's side
Manjal, Kunkumam, Sandhanam

Veshti, Saree Blouse for a nearby temple swamy and Amman
Marriage Hall( including Cooking vessels, Puja vessels, Chairs, Vazhai Maram in the entrance, Hall decoration, Electric serial light for exterior, Gen set , Beddings, water for bathroom use etc )
Marriage Contractor ( for arranging food on the marriage days, Drinking water, Seer Batchanam, Nadhaswaram, Janvasa Car, Poo, Malai, Floral decoration of the Hall, Welcome board ,Kaasi Yaathirai Items( Umbrella,Thadi,Visiri & Religious book) , Muhurtha Mat, Marriage Materials reqd by the Sastrigals,Thaambula Bag Etc)
Printing and distribution of Invitation
( 1st Invitation to Kanchi  Mutt alongwith Swamy Sambavanai )
Photo, Video arrangements
Gold jewellary for the Bride
முக்கிய நகைகள் முகூர்த்தத்தின் போது போடவேண்டும்
Gold Ring For the Bridegroom
Gold Chain For the Bridegroom                
Gold Bracelet For the Bridegroom
Watch For the Bridegroom
( Out of the above four items, the items provided during Nischayathartham need not be provided at the time of marriage )
Thirumangalyam ( 50% share if  Bridegroom's side agrees to share the balance 50%)
Silver articles ( Sombu, Vilakku, Pancha Patram utharani, Pela, kunkuma Chimizh, Meals Plate etc )
Eversilver Vessels as reqd
Kitchen accessories like, Mixee, Grinder, Oven,Electric cooker, Stove, Coffee maker etc ) as reqd
Furniture, TV, Audio system, DVD Player etc (Optional)
Bedding, Pillows, BedSheet and BedCover
Dress for Bride ( Silk Sarees for Viradham, Nischayathartham, Onjal, Muhurtham , Nalangu, Reception and Nuptials -  9 yards for Muhurtham and 6 yards for balance )  - General dress for day to day use
Dress for Bridegroom ( Muhurtha Veshti and Pattu Veshti for Nuptials)
Dress for Bride's parents,sisters, brothers and their children
Dress for Bridegroom's parents ( Sambandhi Mariathai )
Dress for Bride's relatives (Optional)
Dress for Bride's Naathanar ( For Thaali mudithal)
Chappal for Kaasi Yaathirai
Kaasi Yaathirai Items( Umbrella,Thadi,Visiri & Religious book) ,if not provided by the Contractor
Make up items for the Bride
Mehendhi for Bride
Nalangu Items
Koil Permission for Janvasa Maapilai Azhaippu
Police permision for Janvasa Oorvalam
Transport for the Groom and his family from / to Airport / Station /  Bus stand  to / from Marriage Hall
Transport for local visits/ emergency purchases etc
Extra beddings for relatives/ friends who are staying in the Marriage hall
Rooms in a nearby hotel for relatives and friends of Bride and Bridegroom , if reqd
Make up of the Bride
Sastrigal Sambavanai ( of Bride's side )
Arrangement for Honeymoon (Optional)


Girl’s Athai Responsibility
Make bride as “Kalyana Pen” –
குழம்பு வடாம் போட ஏற்பாடு செய்ய வேண்டும்

Buy one Saree

Girl's mama's seer
Saree and blouse for Bride
Gold Ring for Bride
Metti for Bride
Saree and blouse for Bride's mother
Veshti Towel Shirt for bride's father

Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam

Printing and distribution of Invitation
Gold Ring For the Bride
Gold Chain / necklace For the Bride
Gold Bracelet For the Bride
Watch For the Bride
( Out of the above four items, the items provided during Nischayathartham need not be provided at the time of marriage )
Dress for the bride groom ( Pant, coat, shirt for Janvasam, Veshti shirt for nalangu etc )
Dress for Bride (for Grahapravesam)
Dress for Bride's parents ( Sambandhi Mariathai )
Dress for Bridegroom's parents,sisters, brothers and their children
Dress for Bridegroom's relatives
Thirumangalyam ( 50% share if agreed to )
Dress ( or amount ) for Bride's brother ( Pori idudhal )
Nalangu Vilayadal Saamaangal (by Nathanar)
Saree, Cosmetic items, Small dolls
Air / Train / Bus Transport arrangements from Bridegroom's city to the city of marriage for Bridegroom's family and friends
Sastrigal Sambavanai ( of Bridegroom's side )
Arrangement for Honeymoon ( If not arranged by Bride's side )
Sastrigal Sambavanai ( of Bridegroom's side )
Visit to Kula Deivam Koil to fulfill Prarthana

Boy's mama seer
Saree and blouse for Bridegroom's mother
Veshti Towel / Pant shirt  for bridegroom's father
Dress for Bridegroom


Marriage 1st Year Seer

The seer to be arranged for various festivals during the 1st year of Marriage are detailed below.


Girl's Side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Vetrrilai Paakku, Pazham ( common for all festivals )




8th Day after Marriage ( Maru Azhaippu )

Saree , Blouse for Daughter
Pant, Shirt ( or T Shirt ) for son in law
Paruppu Thengai

Karadaiyan Nombu
Saree , Blouse for Daughter
Shirt ( or T Shirt ) for son in law

Tamil New Years Day
Gift ( some amount )

Aadi Festival
Saree , Blouse for Daughter
Pant, Shirt ( or T Shirt ) for son in law
Silver Tumbler

Varalakshmi Nombu ( If applicable )
Silver Sombu
Silver Amman mugham
Silver Plate
Silver Pancha Paathram, uddharani
Saree , Blouse for Daughter
Shirt ( or T Shirt ) for son in law

Navaraathri
Saree , Blouse for Daughter
Shirt ( or T Shirt ) for son in law
Golu Bommai ( some old and some New )

Deepavali
Silk Saree , Blouse for Daughter
Pant ,Shirt ( or T Shirt ) for son in law
Paruppu Thengai
2Sweets and 2 Savouries
Dress for son in law's parents
Dress for son in law's sister/brother ( if they accompany son in law for Deepavali )

Kaarthigai Deepam
Saree , Blouse for Daughter
Shirt ( or T Shirt ) for son in law
Silver Vilakku
Brass Agal Vilakku
Mud Agal Vilakku
A token amount for Oil
Aval Pori in a  Eversilver  Dabba
Nel Pori in a Eversilver Dabba
Paruppu Thengai
1 Sweet

Pongal
Saree , Blouse for Daughter
Pant ,Shirt ( or T Shirt ) for son in law
Bronze Paanai
Sippal Thattu, Karandi

Note: If a child is born before the end of the 1st Year, dress for the child to be included for the relevant festivals

Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Crakers for Deepavali
Sambanthi ethir Mariathai for all festivals 
Veshti, Towel, Saree, Blouse or a token amount 


Pregnancy




Girl's side

Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam

During 5th month of pregnancy
Saree, Blouse for daughter
1 Sweet and 1 Savory

Valaigappu ( to be done separately in 6th or 8th month or alongwith Seemandham )
Veshti for Pillaiyar
Silk Saree, Blouse for daughter ( black Saree can be bought only for this occasion )
Gold Kaappu
Silver Kaappu
Gold , Karugamani Bangles 1 pair
Pattu Paai
Kannaadi Bangles for daughter ( odd no in one hand and the next even no in the other hand, for example 21 in one hand and 22 in the other hand ) )
Kannaadi Bangles for all ladies who attend the function
Kannadi Bangles for close relative/ friend ladies who cannot attend the function.
Saree and blouse for Marumanai lady
Dress for Marumanai Kanya Penn.
Sambaavanai for the Valaiyal Karar
Poo, Pazham, Vetrilai paakku,Thengai
1 Pair Paruppu Thengaai

Seemandham ( To be performed in 6th or 8th month )
Veshti Towel for son in law
9 yards Saree, blouse for daughter
1 Pair Paruppu Thengaai
Seer Batchanam ( 2 sweets and 2 Savouries- 21 or 31 each)- 7 Suththu Murukku
Batchanam for distribution
Poo, Pazham, Vetrilai paakku,Thengai
Maalai for daughter and son in law
Gift to the ladies attending the function
Breakfast / lunch ( to be shared with Sambandhi ) 

Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam

Valaigappu 
Seemandham 

Dress for the son
Dress for the daughter in law
Hall for the function 
Breakfast / Lunch ( to be shared with Girl's side )
Vaathiar Sambaavanai
Items reqd for puja ( list to be obtained from Sastrigal )
Thaambulam for the invitees


Delivery ( When the first two children are born )

Girl's side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam

Hospital Expenses 
Dress for the newborn
Accessories needed for daughter and the newborn
Sweet / Chocalate for distribution

Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Sweet / Chocalate for distribution
Dress for the newborn


Punyahavachanam
To be organised by Girl's side
To be performed  (on the 11th day after birth or as advised by the doctor )
Meals expense to be done by new born child's father side

Girl's side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam
Saree Blouse for daughter

Veshti, Towel, Shirt for son in law
Dress for the newborn
Naai Kaasu, thayatthu for the newborn
Gold Arana for the newborn
Poo, Pazham, vetrilai Pakku , thengai etc
Breakfast / Meals
Paruppu Thengai
Pooja items as reqd by the sastrigal
Decoration of Thottil

Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Athai Kaappu ( to be done on 7th day after birth by the atahi/s or the grandparents of the newborn )
Pon Kaappu
Silver Kaappu
Copper Kaappu
Kaaparisi
Vaathiar Sambavanai 

Dress for the newborn
Gold Chain/ Bangles for the newborn


Kuzhandayai Kondu Viduthal 
( Handing over the newborn to the Sambandhi's)

Girl's side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam
Dress for daughter
Dress for the new born
Dress for the other children , if any
Jewellary for the newborn
Paruppu Thengai
1 Sweet and 1 Savory
Poo, Pazham, Vetrilai Paakku, Thengai etc

Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Ethir mariathai for the sambandhis (Optional)


Ayush Homam
To be organised by boy's side
To be performed on the 1st birth day ( as per birth star )

Girl's side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam
Gold Jewellary for the child ( Chain/ Bangles etc )
Gold Ear Ring 1 pair for the child
Silver plate for the child
Silver Tumbler for the child 
Silk Paavaadai, Blouse for the child ( if girl )
Pant / Drawer, Shirt  ( if boy )
Saree, blouse for daughter
Veshti, towel ,Shirt for son in law
Paruppu Thengai
Thiratti Paal
Seer Batchanam - 1 Sweet and 1 Savory - ( 21 or 31 each )
Kaaparisi
Maalai for the child
Poo, Pazham, Vetrilai Pakku,Thengai etc
Photo / Video ( by either side )

On English Birthday

Dress for the child

Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Hall for conducting the function 

Catering
Jewellary for the child
Dress for the child
Pooja items as reqd by the Sastrigal
Vathiar Sambavanai
Sambandhi ethir Mariathai ( dress or amount )
Thengai Pai, Gift for the attendees 

On English Birth day

Dress for the child
Cake 

Athai Seer at time of  puberty
Any Gift like Silver பேலா etc

Upanayanam
To be organised by boy's side
(to be done when the boy's age is 7 / 9 / 11 etc ( running )

Girl's side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam
Pattu veshti  for the boy
Dress ( Pant Shirt for the boy ) Optional 
Gold chain / Ring for the boy Optional 
Silver Pancha Paathiram, uddharani
Gold and Silver poonal
Silver Plate for Bitchai
Silver Kinnam for Bitchai
Eversilver Vessel for Bitchai
Saree, Blouse for Boy's mother
Veshti, Towel for Boy's father
Seer Batchanam ( Paruppu Thengai, Thiratti Paal, 1 sweet  1 Savoury)
Poo, Pazham, Vetrilai Paakku, Thengai etc

Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Two  4 muzha  Veshti for the boy / Dress for Boy
Dress for Boy's parents/ grand parents
Dress for boy's brothers, sisters, bro in law, sis in law and children 
Invitation to be printed and distributed
Hall for the function ( 1 1/2 days )
1 Veshti  Towel for the Brahmachari ( Kumara Bojanam )
Vaathiar Sambaavanai
Catering
Puja items ( List to be obtained from Sastrigal )
Ethir Mariathai for Sambandhis
Thaambulam for the invitees

Grahapravesam 
To be organised by boy's side

Girl's side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam
Saree Blouse for daughter
Pant, Shirt, Veshti, Towel for son in law
Dress for the children
Dress for son in law's parents Optional
Silver Vilakku
Gold jewellary for son in law ( Chain/ Bracelet etc )
Jewellary for daughter ( Chain/ Necklace / Bangles etc )
Eversilver vessel and Karandi for boiling Milk 
One Pair Paruppu Thengaai
Swamy Padams
Poo, Pazham, Vetrilai Paakku, Thengai etc

Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Dress for son (Optional)
Dress for daughter in law (Optional)
Dress for the children
Catering (Optional)
Pooja items as reqd by the sastrigal (Optional
Vaathiaar Sambavanai (Optional
Ethir Mariathai for Sambandhis( Dress or amount ) Optional


Shastiapthapoorthy
To be organised by boy's side

Girl's side
Manjal , Kunkumam, Sandhanam
திருமாங்கல்யம் Tirumangayam

மெட்டி  Metti
புடவை ஜாக்கட்   Saree , Blouse
வேஷ்டி, அங்கவஸ்தரம், Veshti, Angavastram
மாலை 2,  Garland 2
பூ, தேங்காய், வெற்றிலை, பாக்கு, பழம், Flower, Coconut, Betalleaf, Supari

Boy's side
Manjal, kunkumam, Sandhanam
Dress for self, wife, daughters, sons, sons in law, daughters in law and grand children.
Invitation to be printed and ditributed
Hall for the function ( two days )
Catering 
Vaathiar Sambaavanai
Items reqd for puja( List to be obtained from Sastrigal )
Thaambulam for the invitees


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S S Krishnan
March 2011


105 comments:

  1. Can you please post for Sadabhishekam? Thanks.

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  2. Very useful! Thanks.

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  3. Lovely. Its very useful

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  4. excellent it is very useful for the younger generation

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  5. Very very useful. Thanks much.. I am referring this for my brother's wedding

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  7. Can you please give the details of Nathanar seer(vilaiyadal items) in marriage?

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  8. Most of every expenses is to be incurred by Bride's parents what about Boy ? nothing. Due to this long customs No parents interested to give birth to Girl child. Today Every thing changing but demand is as it is why because in the mind of Indian People FREE is first. Due to this type of typical mentality today ration of girl child is dropping day by day in each and every community and if this type of trend is continue then one day all the above customs reversed and then after also NO GIRL available for Boy. So beware and stop demand from bride's parents and harrasing them in the name of customes. Otherwise See today situation, Girls are rejecting boy and after 10 years ?

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    1. Now a days girl's mothers are adding so many things as she is taking as prestige and also the girls are earning much. Beacuse of this so many unwanted items are added( one item for example is Bracelet). If we follow the original demands (rather we can call it as requirements ) initiated by our elders even today we can celebrate the marriage economically and happily only requirement is Mind set

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    2. At the end only boy n gal going to live together n not this kattu sadham bracelet necklace chain silver tumbler will not give peace in life rather it create all problem like expectation,poking n making fun if not full filled
      gender equality is imp.........both parents should expect tat their children r living happily n peacefully n behave accordingly ,during those olden days wen nothing is there to eat where does they(gals father) afford for a silver or gold.these customs are to bind the relatives like athai mama sambandhis now a days no one does like each other,turn away their faces.ultimately bride n groom should be happy in getting together.Now a days girls r going for work n getting equal importance in the society so no one bothered n r least interested in getting married or they like to be in living relationship so change according to the current generations.i think in coming years after 2 3 gen ppl may comeback for these kind of category wen they ve lot of money n no peace in their life .

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    3. nothing has changed even now inthe 21st century. even the so called educated families expect/give all this. god knows if it ll ever change

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    4. Useful list to be obligatorily noted. Thank you very much

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    5. Yes this is too much.. what about boy’s side ? Everything is optional ?

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    6. what seer to be given for 60the birthday

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  9. Great! It will be very useful for everyone. I looked it up for my niece's engagement. I think we need to take a printout and make it a check list too.

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  10. Can u list down basic vilayadal seer items??

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  11. good. It will be useful to add the Seerbatchanam(kai murrukku adirasam,gopuram sweets etc) sudhakar if u need Seerbatchanam pl contact 8939579923

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  12. I am from Gavarapattu and settled at Chennai. Nice to see a blog on a useful subject from a person belonging to family from Gavarapattu. You can also add the significance of rituals performed at marriage.

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  13. Being a lady i really dont like these type of customs and traditions only to girl side families. It makes the girl to be sad instead of making her happy at the pregnancy time. No girl will like these type of consequences.please try to keep all the girls happy atleast during this time as she is doing a lot for the society as a awhole.

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  14. Deliberately and with full attention, avoid these girl-boy / region / sub sub sub caste / generation comments. Personal grievances too. You are on this page on own volition.

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  15. Only one delivery girl's side not for two children. Now a days its too much. Pld don't burden girl's side. Try to be broadminded to share ecpenses and giving comfort to the new couples.

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  18. Majority of the formalities r from girls side.. This really shows how much burden the boys side family will put on girls side.. These customs will never help a family grow it just increase loads of tension in girls side family.. These ideas will b very useful for boys side to nicely collect everything from girl side in the name of mappilai or son in law..

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    1. Very disheartening but true. But nowadays girls expect these share from boys side or this is the main reason that girls switch to Non - Brahmins for marriage. There, they have equal share in every function. Brahmin culture s*** because of this marriage concept

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    2. Thanks for compiling in this blog the traditional requirements for all functions in life. There have been adverse comments on this site and the same should not have found its place. The blog is created for people to consult the requirements and nowhere a compulsion is created to adhere to what is mentioned. I strictly follow our tradition. My marriage, Varsha seer seemandham valakappu aandu niraivu for both children ( one daughter and one son)and their marriage now aandu niravu for my grand daughter is to take place as per tradition only.
      This kind of blogs only helped us in noting down the requirements and buy in a single visit to Tamil Nadu . Those in Chennai cannot understand the need of this blog as they have readily available stores in their vicinity and also people with information. Please do not discourage people wanting to follow tradition by giving unnecessary and unwanted gender biased comments.
      Long live the person who created this blog.

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  20. It is useful . but just want to confirm weather is it same for caste in TN.

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  21. I agree... total burden on girl's side!
    In my case too.. they demand gold chains n rings n silver articles openly without any hesitation. but when i am bearing their grand child not even a gram of gold. If asked they would easily reply its not their custom... I wish not to have these narrow minded in-laws!

    thanks to grscustoms blog as it is really useful for me to organize my seemantham!

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  22. Though bride groom's family don't demand,a girl's family do in fear that the guy's family may hurt their daughter. At times,even to maintain their prestige. There is a b

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  24. what will be athai do for his (brothers daughter) puberty function ? in the above it is missing

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  25. what will be athai do for his (brothers daughter) puberty function ? in the above it is missing

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  26. Why did you miss Satabhishekam? Those relatives who attend this event will have to give something like veshti and sari. I was curious to know the details.

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  28. In iyengar for seemandham all expenses need to be beared by boy's side. No sharing of any thing with girl's side. This is the tradition.

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  30. Please mention seer for babys kathu kutthal ( Ears Piercing). It's missing

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  34. Splendid.. Very very informative procedures that is followed by brahmin culture. This will be more useful for parents and younger generation who do not know the procedures. Thank a lot. Shekar Balasubramanina [ Bangalore ]

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  36. Nice and very useful for younger generations

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  37. I must say that the freshness of your blog has surely left me mesmerized, there were no better words to express and I will surely be a regular visitor to your blog.

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  38. I shared my comments elsewhere, without knowing here is where I should have :)

    Superb Information. I would like the following added to the Marriage list. I do not know the name, but when the guests leave after the marriage ceremony and eating food, they would be given a bag containing மன்ஜள், தேங்காய், வெத்தலை, பாக்கு

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  39. Hi, its really useful information for the Young Generations like us. Further to above i need to know the Custom details for Tonsure function, which side (Boys or Girls) held responsibility for the functions

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  40. very nice blogs!!! i have to learning for lot of information for this sites..

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  41. I think on child's punyahavachanam, food expenses should be beard by boy's side as they are inviting a new born to their family

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  42. Excellent information with unique content and it is very useful to know about the information based on blogs.

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  43. I think Aththai Seer for the new born from (Boy's side) may be a specific item missing in your list. Kaappu for the new Born is normally Aththai's contribution.

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  44. Very useful list.thanks a lot.

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  47. What is the athai seer for ayushyahomam of brother's daughter?

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  48. I was looking for something like this…I found it quiet interesting, hopefully you will keep posting such blogs….

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  50. How about seer thattu for amman?

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  52. This is a subject close to my heart cheers. Thanks
    Puja samagri online

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  53. Srinivasan VenkataramanFebruary 19, 2017 at 6:04 PM

    Very useful .

    What is the Seer / respect to be given to Our Mappillai and Sister during my Son's Upanayanam?

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    1. Nothing Special. According to your capability can buy dress for your sister, brother in law and their children.

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  54. Excellent stuff as a reference material. Thanks.

    I hope it is Diary Notes and not Dairy notes by Girija as you'd noted ;-0

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  55. Very good information... You have mentioned everything.. If you could add kattu saadham seervarisai list.. That ll be complete. Thanks

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  56. Just a clarification, do we need to arrange pattu pai for nichyataartham function?

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  57. Sir, very useful. I would like to know about sathabhishekam also. What are the seervarisai

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  58. What are the seervarisai from girl ("bride") side for sathabhishekame? I mean the seervarisai from the siblings of the "girl"(though she wud hv crossed 70 yrs, still she is "girl") for sathabhishekam.

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  59. Can u pl add poochoodal on the evening of seemantham. The naathnar bridegroom sister should buy a saree n blouse bit lot of flowers t decorate the entire pinnal of the bride Senior ladies alsi keep flowers on her plait

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  60. Very useful and informative should be modified to: an equal share of expenses and responsibilities.

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  61. very useful information about attending functions Pooja kungumam and turmeric

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  62. please give details about viratham performed by boy side

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  63. sir, excellent collection. Your thought to collate all these info and post it for the benefit of many like me is really great.Very useful for us . Please if you dont mine, also share the details as to what has to be done for smartha sadabhishekam.? including seer .my mail id jvignesh80@gmail.com.
    Thanks

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  65. So, my sister in law is getting married, what seer should my parents do to my inlaws. Thanks. Your blog has been extremely useful for me. Thanks

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  66. There are three things to be added

    Nathanar thali mudiya(Girl Side)
    Silk Saree Romba midha minji irundha Oru Gold set(Necklace and Stud) kooda tharalam

    Machinan (Bride’s brother) PORI poda ( Boy side)

    Gold ring - 1 to 1.5 pavun
    Nice Shirt and Pants

    Seemandham (Boy Side)
    Necklace set for Bride
    Vaira mookuthi
    Vaira valai. All for Bride . Because she is carrying your Varisu.So she should be treated like a princess.

    Badil mariyadai (Boy Side)
    Gold bangle to Bride’s mom - Thanga Kanganam podanum prasavam patha Kaikku.

    Actually Muhurtham Saree (9yards) for Kalyanam and Seemantham should be bought from Grooms Side .

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  67. Ada...namma seeni anna,....Very very useful info.anna...thank you so much...it would be of great use to our community people..
    with love,
    Mahesh

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  68. Can you list down the nelangu/ vilayatu items to be purchased from girls side??

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  69. Can you post Sadabhishekam function requirements in detail?

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  70. I would like to know when and how to display the seer for my daughter's wedding

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  71. What is the seer bakshanam to be given by girls side for sashtiapthapoorthi

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  72. My sons are NOT available on my 80th birth day function which is on 10/02/2020, Can it be postponed to six months. If yes what is the best time? Next year on 81st birthday. or on 84th year.

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  73. See My Wife is pergant Now its 4 month ..Now pongal seer varisai pannalama ? or panna kudatha ..Reply Please

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  74. great work.. people with no ideas can plan very nicely with the details you have provided. Much appreciated!

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  75. What is the count for engagement seer... I mean whether the tray count should be in odd number or the items kept inside the trays.. Pl help

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  76. I would like to know whether any seer is to be given to the newly wed & boys family for krishna jayanthi from girl's side? If so, what are all to be given?

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  77. Sir thanks for the information. Please give the ideas whenever we have to kept parruppu thengai for marriage three days

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  78. Very useful. Thanks for documenting this.

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  79. தமிழ்ல சொல்லுங்க ஈஸியா இருக்கும்

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  80. Sir what is the attai seer for poonal?

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  81. மிகவும் உபயோகமான தகவல். என் மகளின் கல்யாணத்திற்கு வேண்டியவை அனைத்து தகவல்களும் கிட்டியது. நன்றி.

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  82. Very very useful especially for me.thankyou very much.

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  83. Thank you. Could you please share for mottai podudhal

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  84. Please list out nathanasr seer and vilayadal set things.

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